For a long time as a queer woman, I didn’t use sex toys. It’s hard for me to explain why – but I guess it boils down to it not feeling “gay enough”. I heard it said too many times that “if you’re using plastic – then you’re ‘obviously’ missing a penis”. Wrong. Wrong. WRONG.
So now I’d like to hold my hands up and tell you I was an idiot. Not only was I missing OUT but I was also opening the doors to the dreaded lesbian bed death. No more, queers, no more.
Since I started opening up to the possibilities offered by a bit of silicone and a whole load of sexploration, I just cannot stop. Using toys is liberating, refreshing and well – frankly – it can be mind-blowing if you choose the right products. So let me tell you about a trio of toys I recently tried from Playful Sextoy and why you should give them a go.
Pink Remote Control Vibrator
Toys that you can use by yourself and with a partner are my favourite by far and they’re a great place to start.
Remote Contro Vibrator by Playful Sextoys USP is her shape. It’s perfectly curved for internal and external pleasure. It has a smooth texture and some perfectly placed ridges to reach every pleasure point. I loved using this one alone because it’s small and quiet, it fits nicely in my hand and I can easily switch positions to apply the perfect amount of pressure.
When using it with my partner there’s a handy remote meaning I can be in control without touching her. Sex toys are a powerful way to increase the intensity in the bedroom. Tease her before you touch her with this one and you’ve got the kind of foreplay that’ll fire up your sex life for certain.
Double Head 7 Frequency Vibrator
Well, you don’t know what you’re missing until it arrives in a perfectly packaged parcel. This one was a gamble for me because it’s not a traditional toy. A strap is safe, a dildo – done that before but THIS – well I was intrigued. Versatility is the wow factor with the snakey vibe. As two women having sex with a toy – we all know it can sometimes feel limited. Things slide out – the repositioning – it can be a complete mood killer. But, not with this smooth criminal.
Perfectly soft on one end and slightly ribbed on the other you can slot a vibrating sphere into each of you and free up your hands for a little extra touch. The toy stays inside in MANY different positions, allowing you to pleasure one another elsewhere. Yeeehaw.
The cord attaching the vibrators is also smooth and stretchy and doesn’t get in the way. Win, win. Take this one for a spin and start trying positions that don’t work with a traditional toy – and thank me for the advice later!
Lesbian strap-on for beginners
I left this one until last because if we’re graduating up the pleasure pyramid – this strap takes the number one spot. I can’t lie – I was intimidated the first time I saw it. The sheer size and the thought of stopping mid-sex to get it on kind of concerned me. BUT, again, I’m not always right. I loved it.
For me – It’s big – so it took foreplay to get to a place I was going to be able to sit on that sucker, but it’s a ride that was well worth waiting for. The strap has two dildos, one large and one smaller for pleasure on both sides and they’re equally SMOOTH.
What I enjoyed about it was the way we were able to make it fit my partner’s waist so that no matter how vigorous we got – it held firm.
Playful Sextoys got it right with this one.
If you’re going to add anything to your collection or start from scratch, these are the three I’d recommend for SURE.
Explore the exciting new opportunities that sex toys can bring you if it’s your first time – and if you’re already in team toy – then go for something new, even if it’s not what you’d usually go for.
A sex toy a day (okay week, but stay with me) keeps lesbian bed death away.
This article was written by one of our creative team writers here at Nonchalant Magazine.
