Whatever your relationship status, the best lesbian and sapphic sex toys can be a serious upgrade to your pleasure – solo or with someone else. Spicing things up with a partner, or having a quality night in with just yourself? Sometimes you want something a little more than what you came with. No shame in that.
And if you’re not sure toys are even your thing – that’s completely fine, and you’re far from the only one wondering. Have a read of our guide on Are sex toys for everyone? A woman’s guide before you commit to anything.
We’ve picked our top three in each category. We also update this piece regularly, so bookmark it and come back – there’s always something new worth a try.
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Vibrators
Let’s start by talking about the clitoris. Being in the sapphic club, we can be thankful we all know where that is. We also know that we like to use our fingers for foreplay, teasing and touching. Who could disagree that they’re a significant, invaluable asset?
Like all great things, they occasionally need a rest or maybe need some help along the way. For moments such as these, we have curated a few incredible stimulators to get maximum pleasure with minimum effort. Boom!
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1. Satisfyer Dual Kiss – £47.95
If you can’t decide between clitoral and G-spot, good news – you don’t have to. The Dual Kiss gives you both ends of the bargain: a round head that delivers those signature air-pulse waves up top, and a curved, vibrating shaft for a proper G-spot moment. It’s made from body-safe silicone, looks far more expensive than it is thanks to the sleek metal detailing, and frankly wouldn’t look out of place on your bedside table.
It’s waterproof too (IPX7), so bath-time and shower sessions are very much on the menu, and it cleans up in seconds. USB rechargeable, so no scrabbling around for batteries mid-moment.
Beginner tip: pop the opening flush against your (or her) clit so no air escapes – that’s where the magic happens. Start gentle, hold still, let it do the work. A little lube around the rim never hurts.
2. SONA™ 2 Cruise – £129
If you want bigger, longer, louder finishes, this is the one. Rather than buzzing against you, the Sona 2 Cruise uses sonic waves to stimulate the whole clitoris – not just the bit you can see – which is exactly why people get a bit evangelical about it. Twelve settings that build in intensity, premium body-safe silicone, and fully waterproof, so bath and shower sessions are firmly on the table. The clever bit: Cruise Control holds back extra power for the grand finale, so it never fades just as you’re getting there.
And while Lelo sells it as a solo toy, it’s a brilliant one to use on your girlfriend – the broad sonic head means you don’t need pinpoint accuracy, so it’s far more forgiving to use on someone else than a standard bullet. Hand it over or take the reins. Premium, yes. Worth it, also yes.
3. DAME Fin Finger Vibrator – £37
The genius of the Fin is that it doesn’t change what you already do – it just turns it up. It sits between your fingers (a little tether keeps it in place), so you keep all the control and intimacy of using your hands, with a buzz added exactly where you want it. Wear it above or below the hand, switch up the angle, and find what works – it’s made for fingers, which makes it one of the most natural toys to use on a partner. No relearning, no awkward fumbling, just your touch with extra. Dame designs with women front and centre, and it shows. Comes in Citrus and pink.
Dildos
1. Cupid 3 Curved Silicone Dildo – £49
Sh! Cupid 3 curved dildo: best all-rounder
If you want one dildo that just works, this is the one we’d hand you. There’s a reason it’s Sh!’s best-seller – the gentle upward curve and smooth rounded head mean it glides in easily and then finds your G-spot like it’s got a map. Six inches of velvety body-safe silicone, 1.5 inches at its widest, which is the sweet spot for most bodies – full and satisfying without being a lot.
The flared heart-shaped base is the clever bit: it sits securely in a harness, so this doubles as your strap-on dildo (hello, the harnesses above), and it’s safe for anal too. Being 100% silicone, it warms to body temperature fast, it’s non-porous and hypoallergenic, and you can properly sterilise it – so sharing between partners is genuinely fine with a clean in between.
One care note worth heeding: water-based lube only. Oil and silicone lubes will wreck that lovely smooth finish over time.
2. Strap-On-Me Small Strapless Dildo – £70
The strapless is a beautiful bit of engineering, and this is the one we’d start people on. One partner “wears” it by slipping the bulb inside, where it sits firm against the G-spot, while the shaft extends out front for a lover to hop on – no harness, no straps, just you. The small version keeps things slender (6.1-inch shaft, just over an inch wide), which makes it far friendlier if other strapless dildos have felt like too much.
The genuinely clever part is the shape-memory neck: it bends and then holds its position, so you adjust the angle until it’s pressing exactly where you want – against your clit while you’re doing the giving. It even bagged a Red Dot design award, which is a sentence we didn’t expect to write about a sex toy, but here we are.
Water-based lube on both ends, and you’re away. For the wearer who wants to feel it too, this is the pick.
3. Sinful Slender Silicone Dildo Medium 5.7 Inch – £17.99
Sinful slender silicone dildo: best for a slimmer fit
If you’re shopping for your first dildo – or you simply don’t want or need anything big – this is the one to start with. At 5.7 inches long and a slim 1 inch across, it’s designed for women who find a lot of girth more “ouch” than “ooh”, and there’s zero shame in that. The right size is the size that feels good, and for plenty of people that’s exactly this.
It’s body-safe silicone with no phthalates, so none of that off-putting rubbery smell, just smooth and easy to clean. The properly powerful suction cup is the fun bit – stick it to pretty much any flat surface and go hands-free, wherever your imagination takes you. Or pop it in a harness with one of the picks above for strap-on play with a partner.
Slim, versatile, beginner-friendly. A brilliant gateway dildo.
Strap-on harnesses
Maybe you want to try a strap-on?
With a strap, the harness is central. It needs to be comfortable, sturdy, and easy to put on. You don’t want to be faffing around in the heat of the moment, do you?
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1. Strap-On-Me Heroine Butt Lift Harness Thong – £49.99
Let’s talk to the femme tops for a second, because the strap-on market has historically not been built with you in mind. This one is. It’s a harness thong rather than the usual industrial-looking buckle situation – super-stretchy (75% nylon, 25% elastane), sits like a second skin, and the adjustable straps run under the cheeks so it actually lifts and frames rather than flattening everything you’ve got going on. Function and a frankly excellent rear view.
The silicone O-ring (1.75 inches) grips your dildo of choice without the wobble that lets cheaper harnesses down, and the elasticated waist is comfortable enough to keep on well past the main event. It’s a brilliant first strap-on too – forgiving, stretchy, no faff getting into it.
Machine washable, which any sane person appreciates. Femme tops, this is your sign.
2. Rodeoh Strap-On Harness Black Briefs – £59.00
If buckles and straps have ever made you feel like you’re assembling flat-pack furniture mid-moment, the RodeoH is the answer. It’s a strap-on harness that looks and wears like a pair of briefs – no hardware, no faff, just step in and go. The Brief+ is the upgraded version, with a second fabric layer and reinforced front panels, and that extra support genuinely makes a difference – the dildo stays put instead of nodding around the second things get energetic.
Fair warning: these run snugger and less stretchy than your normal pants (heavier 95% cotton, 5% spandex), and that’s the point – the firm fit is what holds the weight. Size with that in mind.
The clever touch is two bullet vibe pockets, one above and one below the O-ring, so the wearer gets clitoral buzz while doing the giving. Top tops, take note. Just check your dildo before you order – the O-ring takes 1.65 inches or less, so wider ones won’t fit through.
Comfortable, secure, and easy to throw in the wash. The most beginner-friendly harness we’d point you to.
3. Thigh Strap On Harness – £45.00
Here’s one that doesn’t get talked about enough. Instead of sitting on your hips, this harness straps a dildo to your thigh – which sounds niche until you realise how much it opens up. No hip-grinding rhythm to master, no aching back; some people find it far more natural and easier to control than a conventional harness, especially seated with your lover straddling you.
It’s made and fully lined in soft nappa leather (a properly lovely thing rather than the usual nylon), and it goes on in seconds: step in, slide it up, pull tight. The deep elasticated strap threads through two D-rings and doubles back onto velcro, so it genuinely fits any leg – cinch it for smaller thighs, let it out up to about a 31-inch circumference for larger ones.
And the positions it unlocks are the fun part. Two vulva-owners can each wear one for penetration during frottage. Feeling ambitious? Wear one on each thigh and let two lovers climb aboard. As alternatives to the standard strap-on go, this is the one we’d nudge the curious towards.
Enjoy,
Nonchalant x
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